My post of yesterday was supposed to only be an introduction to the answer to my question…but I kind of got carried away with the explanation, and decided that enough was enough for one sitting. Now I’m back with a bit more insight I’ve found in Emerson, then — voila! — the Answer!
Emerson’s thesis in “Compensation” can be condensed in one of his statements: “Cause and effect, means and ends, seed and fruit, cannot be severed; for the effect already blooms in the cause, the end preexists in the means, the fruit in the seed.” He goes on to explain why that is so important to understand, because human nature doesn’t seem to get it. “The ingenuity of man has always been dedicated to the solution of one problem…to get one end without an other end…This dividing and detaching is steadily counteracted… the parted water reunites behind our hand. Pleasure is taken out of pleasant things; profit out of profitable things…” In other words, if you aren’t willing to accept the reality of loss as the other end of gain, then you have neither…no life, only existence.
This has really been a challenge for me to rethink my life. As I look back now, I can see that after choosing to walk away from the love of my life, and living with the hurt too long, I allowed my wonderfully protective subby to convince me that I could avoid that pain by never feeling that way again about any other man. Result? One disappointing relationship after another. I have proved over all these years that what you believe, you get! Ouch!!
So, as of Week 9, here’s who I am going to convince my subby that I really want to be for the rest of my days: “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy.” And I am going to add to my affirmations God’s word to back up each adjective, starting with “strong”: Philippians 4:13–I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
May all who read this be as abundantly blessed as I feel on this American Thanksgiving Day!