“Learn to keep the door shut, to keep out…every element (thought) that seeks admittance with no definite helpful end in view.” (George Matthew Adams) This week’s exercise is, I am convinced, created just for me! To be successful, I must form the habit of analyzing every thought, so I can immediately substitute constructive thought for destructive (negative) thought. Who could ever imagine how hard it is to think only positive, constructive thoughts, thoughts designed to be definitely helpful to self or to others. I challenge you to try it for ten minutes the next time you are in line at the grocery store or, especially, the post office. Want to try for one minute?? LOL
Many years ago, when my job required housework on an isolated ranch, I got addicted to those TV “soap operas” with all the drama queens and playboys. I didn’t realize how watching those interactions day after day had affected my own thoughts about relationships until I found myself angry at my boss if the TV boss had been particularly nasty that day. It took a long time to overcome those automatic reactions — I think some might still be “firing together” in the subby today!
So this has been a tremendous exercise that I have needed to seriously work on again. There are so many “insignificant” thoughts that just pop up, like watching someone walking ahead of me this afternoon into the post office, and thinking that her clothes didn’t fit her as well as I thought they could. What a useless thing to notice — which I did realize after about 10 seconds of wondering why I even cared — too late — start over! It seems like sometimes there’s just a constant flow that I can’t seem to “flick away” like a hot cinder, before the next one hits. Stupid driver! Dirty panhandlers! Thoughtless cyclist! Terrible color on new building! Dumb stop lights all out of synch! Rotten computer has another virus! Augghhhh!
Until I can truly greet each day, each situation, each person with love in my heart, I have quit reading or listening to most news (five minutes in the morning to make sure the world is still fairly intact) which has helped a lot. (Haven’t had a TV for years, so no problem there.) I have noticed there are times when it seems like all is well in my world — when I can sense a negativity getting ready to sprout, and quickly switch to “constructive only”…so perhaps all is not hopeless. I refuse to give up, anyway, so there, subby!