MaryLou Hits the Restart Button

Week 8 – Keep Out!


“Learn to keep the door shut, to keep out…every element (thought) that seeks admittance with no definite helpful end in view.” (George Matthew Adams) This week’s exercise is, I am convinced, created just for me!  To be successful, I must form the habit of analyzing every thought, so I can immediately substitute constructive thought for destructive (negative) thought. Who could ever imagine how hard it is to think only positive, constructive thoughts, thoughts designed to be definitely helpful to self or to others. I challenge you to try it for ten minutes the next time you are in line at the grocery store or, especially, the post office. Want to try for one minute??  LOL

Many years ago, when my job required housework on an isolated ranch, I got addicted to those TV  “soap operas” with all the drama queens and playboys. I didn’t realize how watching those interactions day after day had affected my own thoughts about relationships until  I found myself angry at my boss if the TV boss had been particularly nasty that day.  It took a long time to overcome those automatic reactions — I think some might still be “firing together” in the subby today!

So this has been a tremendous exercise that I have needed to seriously work on again. There are so many “insignificant” thoughts that just pop up, like watching someone walking ahead of me this afternoon into the post office,  and thinking that her clothes didn’t fit her as well as I thought they could.  What a useless thing to notice — which I did realize after about 10 seconds of wondering why I even cared — too late — start over!  It seems like sometimes there’s just a constant flow that I can’t seem to “flick away” like a hot cinder, before the next one hits.  Stupid driver!  Dirty panhandlers! Thoughtless cyclist! Terrible color on new building! Dumb stop lights all out of synch! Rotten computer has another virus!  Augghhhh!

Until I can truly greet each day, each situation, each person with love in my heart, I have quit reading or listening to most news (five minutes in the morning to make sure the world is still fairly intact) which has helped a lot. (Haven’t had a TV for years, so no problem there.)  I have noticed there are times when it seems like all is well in my world — when I can sense a negativity getting ready to sprout, and quickly switch to “constructive only”…so perhaps all is not hopeless.  I refuse to give up, anyway, so there, subby!


Author: masterkey4MaryLou

Who am I? I have to think about that...a loner who really likes people, a "tomboy" more comfortable in jeans who enjoys dressiing up, a country girl who is fascinated by city life (for a few minutes anyway), a writer who would rather read, a homebody who looks forward to traveling (my goal next year-a river cruise in Portugal), a conservative with a liberal heart, a Bible student intrigued by the new mind other words, a simple 74-year-old full of contradictions, still trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up. Also, must confess to being addicted to Coast-2-Coast radio when I can't sleep (except October, when the dark side takes over).

7 thoughts on “Week 8 – Keep Out!

  1. Lovely blog! thank you really, for sharing your experiences:-)
    I don’t know if it is any easier, but if you don’t think in terms of “negative” or “potsitive”, but KNOW that things are just what they ARE 🙂 it is your own perseption of them that puts the mask of “negative” or “positive” on every situation or subject. So if I comment on some of these situations you shared, like: “her clothes didn’t fit her as well as I thought they could” – what if you give yourself a goal to find SOMETHING in every person that YOU like:-) maybe you liked her nailpolish? or Her hair? Her pants? (even though you thought they didn’t fit) but instead of not thinking at all and risking to get thoughts and opinions build up in the head and need to start over- just set a goal to always find at least 1 thing you like and meet with a smile:-)
    Or this one: “you are in line at the grocery store or, especially, the post office” . What about you just observe how others act and what they say, just for fun? Without judgments, just for observation-skills:-) When you observe you don’t see the time pass and “Whola!”- you are at the cashier place and ready to pay for the stuff:-) don’t need to “wait” in the line.
    Anyway, you got the point i think;-) This helped me in the beginning of our first week of no-opinion diet:-) Just meet everything and everyone with love, cuz it does not matter what they do or wear or say- as long as it’s don’t cause you any harm:-) right?
    Love to u!


    • You are absolutely right — before I started this diet, I spent any time I needed to stand in a line talking to people to find out if they were interested in the financial coaching that I do — really met a lot of nice folks, rarely thought about negative stuff, and even found a new client now and then. But when the diet started, it seems like all I could think about was negative things — weird! So I have been concentrating on finding something to compliment each on (even silently if they aren’t nearby), which goes perfectly with our Giving and Receiving task…amazing how this all works together! Thank you so much for taking the time to care and share good ideas!


  2. Way to go Mary Lou nice job. WE all will get there one change at a time.
    Be Well Be Blessed


  3. Hi Mary Lou! So great to be on this journey with you. Love your blog and insights! Let’s mastermind! Happy Thanksgiving, my dear!


  4. Stay the course your blessing is on the other side of the diet! You’re doing great!


  5. Mary Lou, I can so identify with you. I also have a lot of meaningless thoughts about people´s clothes etc. But just being aware of those meaningless thoughts is a step in the right direction. I enjoyed reading your post.


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